Your Words

Do you want to be more accountable for your words. It is said your words are like a wild animal. You have to keep it under control. You can use your mouth for pain and hurt, or use it for joy and peace. We can build up or tear down. If we want to be joyful in life be careful of what you speak. We can cause people to succeed or to fail by what we say. Gossip, criticism is the fastest traveling news in the world, to bad good news don't spread like that. Why is our human make up want to spread bad news quicker than good news. What would happen if you refused to criticize. Rudeness, complaining, judgmental. Keeping secrets can you do that if you are told not to repeat them, or maybe not even told not to tell them, can you be trusted. The more you talk about your problems the more unhappy you make yourself. The less you talk about your problems the less problems you will have. Not saying you should not talk about you problems, just don't keep harping on and on, for then things will be instilled in you and things will never change.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Enjoy Life

Seems the older we get the more we want to enjoy life with the time we have left. When we are young we figure we got a whole life time to waste, that time goes by fast. So we have to look for the joy stealers in our lives. How do we make other people happy. When we start giving away happiness we will reap 20 fold. If we don't give away mercy we probably won't get it back. We show no compassion for our fellow man there will be no compassion given back. If we dish out hurtful things you are guaranteed to get it back. Do we say bad things to other people then we are hurt when it is deliver back to us. Do you get up in the morning and jabber all day with no meaning to what you say, not thinking of what, or who we are hurting. Don't forget that the poison that comes from your mouth does not only poison the people around you it is also poisoning you. We have the privilege of words, but it seems when we have a privilege we have a huge responsibility.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

The Power of Words

Can you increase the joy in your life. Words effect all the people in your life. How do we tame the tongue. Words are containers of power. They carry creative or destructive power. We have to learn to be accountable for the words that com out of our mouths. We can bless people or curse people with our tongues. Are you a tongue wagger. Do you have a judgement or criticism about everyone you meet or maybe your friends or best friends. Can you bridle or control your tongue. We all need reminders of this all the time. How many of can say that our mouth gets us into more trouble that any other thing in our lives. What about this we have two ears and one mouth, if we were suppose to speak more than listen we would be born we two mouths and one ear!  Slow to speak quick to hear and slow to anger.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Change

How do we set in motion for the world or maybe universe. Do you say everybody loves me and I love everybody, or nobody likes me and I don't like them either. Do you say to your children, you can't do any thing right your no good. Don't ever say to your children you are bad, say what you done was bad but you are good. You have to be careful what you say to your children. You have to teach your children that they are special and they don't have to compare them selves to every body else, they have abilities. Teach your children the things that your parents may not have not known how to teach you! Good heavens we are are society that is evolving our parents did not know all there was to know about bringing up you and you will not know all there is to know about bringing up your child and your children, will have a difference about the way you brought them up. Stop saying things are always going to be the same and get worse.Things are never going to change, I'll never change, I'll never have any money. Things will change if you have a positive attitude that they will.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Words and future

What effects our future is our words. Seeing we are word people. We have to believe our words, speak our words and keep our word. Simple things like telling some one you are going to call them tomorrow, call them. If you can't, get someone to call them, if you can't do that, as soon as you can, call them and tell them why you couldn't call them on time. If you tell your kids you are going to do something do it, keep your word keep your commitments. Isn't it hard to find people who keep their word it seems that it is a ramped problem. Our words affect our relationships. Lots of marriages fall apart because of words spoken or words not spoken. As soon as we speak right words marriages turn around. If you are spiritual you should be the one that speaks first. Swallow your pride, find positive things to say. Don't let strife, bickering and arguing take the forefront in your home. Make your home a place of peace. Don't let your self think garbage thoughts so you can open your mouth and dump them out, say something with and that has purpose.
 (Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.)
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Self control II

Love is not a feeling it is a decision and a action, it involves how we treat people. Not how we treat people, who treat us right, but how we treat all people. How can a person walk in love if you don't have self control.
If you are going to love people only when you feel like it, your in trouble, if you don't have self control.
You can increase your joy by exercising self control with your mouth. If you wake up in the morning in a bad mood, don't say I'm in a bad mood, say I'm not going to stay in a bad mood because of a feeling, I'm not going to let my feelings control me. Do not permit yourself to be agitated and disturbed, and do not let yourself be fearful, intimidated, cowardly and unsettled. Every time you have a problem don't let it get you down make a change and take responsibility, every time you make that small victory, it will make the next problem or challenge seem a little bit smaller.
Use self control to form new habits. Keep yourself calm in adversity.
Sifu Hayes wwwsilentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Self control

 What is self control and how do you per-sever. The facets of love are- joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and goodness these are all held in place by self control. The only way you can exercise self control is you've got to want to to be in control of yourself. It's like anything else a person wants to do in life, anything from things like quitting smoking to controlling your tongue, first step is to convince yourself this is what you are want to do, once you take this step and have this mindset the rest will fall into place. We must exercise self control.
Every day you must say I am disciplined and self controlled.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Wisdom of Speech

Watching our speech and speak with wisdom. What is the most unruly member of our body's. We can use it to heal or to kill. It depends who is control of it. We should conduct our selves with wisdom and make the most of every opportunity our words should be healing. We meet a lot of unique people and we should be ready to respond to everyone, and respond differently. Three things we should learn. Wisdom, grace and healing. Wisdom, knowing what to do when you understand a situation. Grace, speak with caring and without prejudice. Healing, bringing healing to the person who is hurting.     Now try to heal someone you know.
Insightful sayings; Wisdom knows that anything that is to good to be true is a trap for the foolish.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

The Gray Times

Are you trying to get a positive perspective in life, feeling down in the mouth. It is said the we all suffer from different degrees of depression in a lifetime. Also that one in five will suffer from depression. Doctors have said that short term depressions is as common as the common cold. These experiences will not seem like anything good would ever come of them. But if you are patient you will certainly learn something from this difficult time. The cause of short term depression does not usually happen over night, it usually take time to get down so don't expect a immediate recovery. You can argue, complain, ignore and shout about what is happening to you but be patient. There is probably something happening to you despite your pain, you may feel all alone, you are learning patience when your world feels out of control. Trusting in the higher power with meditation will get you through it.
Choose ways to cope with stress and anger.
Look for good and expect to find it.
Focus on the needs of others.
Stop trying to discover why.
Cultivate intimacy with God.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Relationships & Mistakes

Genuine love is not fragile. There has got to be a lot of give and take in a marriage. A lot of grace in a relationship Agape comes to mind (with surprise and wonder). Leaves room for another person to make mistakes. Living with a person for a lifetime there will be a lot of mistakes for either partner to over look. Some relationships men and women are constantly irritated by their mate. A simple oversight, a miss spoken word, a wrong look, a small error, would be the cause for a explosion against the other person. Some people in a relationship keep an account of these small mistakes, keeping a mental list, and probably without even knowing it. makes them the loser. These things have to be addressed immediately, or just let it go.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Change

Work has changed a bit and not for the good of my body. An old injury has arose again one that has been managed for the last fifteen years. My body is trying to cope with the change over the last three weeks, have reasonably good days and very bad days. Life continues on. Another step in the road of life. So the push-ups and crunches have taken a back seat for awhile until things get straightened out.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Courage with Compassion

What is courage, it is having the mental strength to go beyond your comfort zone and do something you would not normally do.
The Wikipedia definition of courage and compassion is described.
Courage (is referred as bravery, boldness, fearlessness, mettle, fortitude, or intrepidity) is the ability to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation.
"Physical courage" is courage in the face of physical pain, hardship, death, or threat of death.
"Moral courage" is the ability to act rightly in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal, or discouragement.
"Compassion" is the virtue of empathy for the suffering of others.

Courage you would think is all you need, but courage without compassion is dangerous. The courage to speak out or act out physically would be dangerous if it is done without compassion. Most courageous acts in saving people happens because of compassion.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Courage Vs compassion Quotes

Courage
 With courage you will take risks. Hopefully you will have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity.
Compassion
 We are not better than the meanest on earth. While the is a lower class we are in it, while there is a criminal element we are in it, while there is a lower class we are in it, while there is a soul in prison we are not free.
Courage
 You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Compassion
 How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.
Courage
 If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream.
Compassion
 All the arguments to prove man's superiority cannot shatter this hard fact: in suffering the animals are our equals.
Courage
 Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.
Compassion
....when we finally know we are dying, and all other sentient beings are dying with us, we start to have a burning, almost heartbreaking sense of the fragility and preciousness of each moment and each being, and from this can grow a deep, clear, limitless compassion for all beings.
Courage and compassion
"The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible."

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Pain and Compassion

  Pain, there is the psychological, emotional and physical. Personally don't like to experience any of these types of pain and don't like to see pain in others. Being compassionate in seeing another persons pain is difficult, we are unwilling to truly look at another persons pain. We first have to accept that pain is a part of living and dying, and no one is immune to pain and suffering. Until we accept that pain and suffering is a part of this life we can't be compassionate. If we comprehend the depth of compassion, then maybe our hearts will be softer to others pain. We cannot be compassionate if we get hung up on the pain we see, we have to look past the pain. When we look past the pain and into the heart, we don't ignore the pain, we accept respect and acknowledge it. We look past the pain, past the suffering and sufferer, past the hurt to the heart. When your heart connects with the person in pain that is compassion. When your heart connects with the sufferer do not speak from analyzing and judging mind speak from what it would be like in there situation. Being compassionate means taking others feelings into consideration, listening to a persons story, not being self centered, looking past their pain and into the heart. 
So many people listening to another's pain, can't wait till the sufferer quits talking so they can tell their own story of past or present pain.

Plato said, (Be kind, for everyone is fighting a hard battle.)

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Leadership II

Basic requirement traits for leadership, courage, vision, articulation, integrity, and most of all a thick skin. Whether in education, business, government or at home. These traits will form a foundation for leadership. These traits don't come through osmosis but through discipline and practice and marked by a lot of failure. Leaders are not deterred by hardship and or failure. Leaders have a high calling with deep responsibility. If you are in a position of leadership sharpen your vision for the future, strengthen your integrity, find new sources of courage. The Kwoon is committed to encouraging you in your pursuit, and challenging you to grow as a leader.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Leadership I

Through leadership we may sometimes stretch our creativity. Leaders sometimes find themselves against a wall. Can't go through it, can't climb over it, can't go around it. To a leader that is when it gets exciting. Innovative juices start flowing and ways to get past the wall. Calls for innovation, creativity and courage to find an answer. We have to be models of honesty, compassion, diligence and creativity.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Control

We so often talk about control in the martial arts. Most of the time we are talking about the physical control. But the mental control is where it all starts. Mental control covers a wide range of emotions. Controlling the emotions is not easy for most people. Depending on your mood at the time. A persons emotions can change in a instance, you get cut off in traffic, the traffic lights quit working right when you get there, the train crosses just when you get to the tracks. There are always people wanting to crank you up! Some people thrive on, and live for the cranking up of other peoples emotions, it is a challenge, actually a emotional high for them. One has to learn to take a deep breath, tell yourself that it is not such a big deal, and let it go. Learning how to release emotions is not a overnight thing. It takes years to learn how to control every emotion. Control the mental, that will control the physical.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony plain, Alberta, Canada.

Take Responsibility

You are responsible for the rest of your life. Take responsibility for your actions it may be painful and it may be difficult. Your attitude is what sets the motion. Your face and responses reveal your own chosen attitude. When you are engaged in life. The bad of life is just waiting, for to you take the easy path of life. We all know what awaits us down that road. You have to take charge of your life. One of the secrets of a good marriage is don't go to bed angry. Going to bed angry gives the anger a chance to get cemented in you, that will turn to resentment then bitterness and possibly rage. That in turn can change to worst of all possibly murder maybe not physical but mental. Mental domination and possibly forcible control. It can be cutting down other people to gain your self esteem and ego.
We so often talk about control all sorts of control. We talk about control when we spar. We talk about control when we speak. Same as what is talked about in the first paragraph. Control of the physical, control of the mental.  We are so often in life told to express yourself, but not at the expense of others.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

The Child

What is family what is a home for. Why do children need a family and a home. The home is for living together, learning and lasting. When and if the home begins to decay next the community, and then nations the country begins to decay. How do we teach our children to respect and honor, the mother and father. If you honor your children they will honor you. This will happen through the osmosis of learning from the parents. There is no perfect parent as there are no perfect children, although there may be a few that think they are. We all as parents wish we would have done things different, but really as a parent we are learning as we grow. We can't have goals for our children, we can have goals for ourselves. Reason being we can control ourselves, we can't control our children. We desire our children to be honorable, how do we control that, by being honorable ourselves, it is learned. How do we survive parenthood, we are not perfect so how are our children going to be perfect. The only control we have is to try to teach our children the best we can, guess the rest is hope for the best. Your children already know you are not perfect, they just want to know if you are real. If your children see you fail and mess up and you pick yourself up and carry on and learn from your mistakes. Your children will learn far more from that than from having phony perfectionism. How does a parent teach our children there are some things that are important to the growing up of a child. Few things come to mind, not giving a child what they want but giving them what they need that is truly love for the child. Hugging, hey what about the bumper sticker kids need hugs not drugs. Hugs gives a child love, so when they grow up that they will realize, intimacy is not necessarily love. Hey children must see parents hugging one another. How else will they understand love. If Mom
and Dad don't hug and you hug your children what message is that sending. Grandparents need to hug so the Grand children can see that they love one another. Fathers hug your daughters, is it possible that a daughter could become promiscuous because a father did not hug his daughter. Fathers bless your children, you are the father give you're child a blessing it gives them strength saying I love you. Listen to your children, so often a parent does not wait till there child has finished there sentence and the parent is already giving advice. Most times they don't need advice just need a ear, most of the time they will figure it out themselves, if they figure it out for themselves they will remember it forever. Most of the time listening is the best form of communication. Children need encouragement not praise. Praise says your great because you did something. Encouragement says something was done and it is really appreciated. Big difference. Your child needs limits, and they will be tested. If the limits are not set and abided they know what you down deep stand for. You need rules and limits in your home. Train your child. Why do some people tie their dog up at night and let their child run wild.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Dealing with ourselves

Do we always tell the truth, or do you hear that little lie or tell one, you don't think it will hurt anyone! When we lie we are actually hurting ourselves. When you are angry do you nurse your grudge, use bad language, and snap out at people maybe the people you are not angry at, or do you keep it inside and let it eat at you. It is said not to go to bed full of anger for it will rob you of sleep and that can turn to sickness. You are only hurting yourself. We must be kind to each other, have a tender heart and forgive one another.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Failure

Do you question yourself why you start something and not continue to the finish. What was the reason you started, now question yourself. A long project needs to be broke into small increments. Next can the small increments be seen. If no small accomplishments have not been realized, then the finally just keeps getting farther away. Failure is part of character building. If there is never any failure there is no long term learning. If one goes through life without failure, one will never learn right from wrong, good from bad, compassion, love, the list is endless. Failure is one of the best teaching tools. Failure should be embraced, the worst thing that one can do is fail and quit.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Hike

Spent the weekend in Canmore, done some fishing but the rivers are really swollen from all the rain they've had. We done a hike up to Grassy Lakes, wow what beauty. There is a easy trail and a hard trail. The hard trail is the way to go it is a fascinating hike a picturesque view of Canmore, a turquoise lake and canal, a hundred foot plus drop waterfall. The Grassy Lakes themselves are stunning, only approximately about forty meters across. The algae growing in the water is a grass color, then when the sun shines it's rays in the water the algae almost turns to a fluorescent green. Small trout can be seen right to the bottom of the fifteen feet of crystal clear water. This is a must hike, but take the hard trail both ways.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Life Again

It seems again we ask ourselves what we are doing here, why we are here, and what are we going to do about it. Some people say nothing! They are going to cruse through life with no responsibility towards absolutely nothing, be irresponsible and just have fun. Is that what it's all about. Possibly but not likely. It's more about learning. We have good times and times not so good. Again we humans don't learn unless things are learned the hard way, seems it is the only way we remember and appreciate anything. Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT StonyPlain, Alberta, Canada .

Change

We the people do not know the power we have to change the world. We the people can not rely on governments to totally look after us. Governments are really there to do what the people want, you know democracy! But it seems governments, which are a group of people who do start with the right attitude, you know the attitude that they are going to really make a difference and change things for the good, but the same old thing happens people are people and they seem to run into a brick wall if they do not conform to the way things are done you are booted out, so you conform. So what do we do to change the way governments are run. Well there seems to be more and more movements and people standing up and resisting, and pushing for change. When we look around the world and we see CEO's and banking institutions walking away with money from hard working people. There is a time to put a stop to what is happening and the time is now. Change is on the way. Let us be the change. Situ Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Reunion

At a one hundred year reunion of a school since it had been built. So there was a assortment of people of all ages. Was great to see people meeting again, that had not seen each other up to fifty years. Of course a person exercises their skills in communication since it was not my side of the school reunion. Fun was had by all. Situ Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

What's Earned

It seems that today's world does not respect things the way they used to be. That the amount of respect that is given is directly related to the amount that is earned. The harder respect is to earn the more respect that is felt. Some people use pieces of this world as stepping stones with no respect for what other people have earned. Is it jealousy or is it just people who have grown up with out having to feel the pain of nothing and having to work hard and give all they can, because suffering is one of the best teachers, the best teacher of respect. Situ Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Getting Closer

Summers here, after the six weeks in March of no crunches and pushups getting closer to catching up to where the numbers for UBBT are suppose to be. Persistence is the best way to describe it, a little extra crunches and pushups each day and we will get there. Fifty extra a day and one hundred and twenty six days latter there we are the numbers will be back on schedule. Situ Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Pause

A practice of self control prevents desire from becoming a dictator. Discipline of the tongue is verbal restraint. Discipline of the diet is restraint at the dinner table. As for the temper exercise emotional restraint. For our thoughts exercise mental restraint. Before taking any step to satisfy our desires. Taking a three second pause when an impulse hits you, before taking action. This three seconds will give you a time to take a quick assessment of what the consequences might be, these three seconds could save you some embarrassment later. Pausing instead of reacting. Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Directions, Which One

What is society doing is it moving in the direction God, peace and love or is it moving in the direction of falsehoods and dismay.  You choose your path.  If you choose the path of falsehood and dismay it will gladly follow you and help you be guided into the worst of the worst. It will be there to help you into your wildest dreams. Into all the hurt and unrest that you can imagine. All you have to do is keep that negative outlook on life and it will deliver. It will keep you angry at life and eventually turn you into a bitter old person. But if you choose the path of the positive. Life can be very fulfilling. Choosing God or higher being, peace and love that is the path that life on this great old earth will transcend to you. It will give you the tools that you need to make good things happen. Not saying life is going to be spectacularly easy. Back to the basics. Displaying and believing in discipline, respect, love, peace and joy. These will be given back to you. What is earned is gained, what is gained is yours. Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Beauty

Spending the week in the Rocky Mountains the sun broke out on the second day and stayed with us for the rest of the week. The fish were biting, walking and biking the trails, caught my first trout, and a three pounder. A week of cooking on the open fire just seems to make food taste so much better. It just seemed disheartening to come back to reality when life in the mountains was so beautiful and relaxing. It is beautiful when you can't remember what day of the week it is. Home again and yes back to reality, cutting the grass and back to work.  Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Nature

Funny thing we are camping here in the foot hills of the Rocky Mountains the weather in the last four hours it has rained, snowed, hailed, and sunshine unbelievably warm. Have not caught a fish in a day and a half of fishing off and on, bicycle riding, down to freezing at night splitting wood and keeping the fire going to cook on and keep warm. But you know what, it just does not matter this lake is so beautiful it is nature at its best. We are loving it. Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Preparing is Everything

It seems that in this fast moving life of ours, we do not prepare ourselves for the future. Living day to day is the norm. So why is that, we are in so much of a hurry to get things done we realize that life is not much fun? We want to succeed but don't want to spend the time preparing to succeed. We may succeed in both instances whether we prepare or not, but preparing always sets the worlds energies, your energies and mind set in the right direction. Laying out a plan, it may be written which is always better and very elaborate or the plan could be small and done in your mind. Just because you lay out a plan does not mean that the plan has to be followed to a tee things can be changed along the way, as they always will be, but at least you will have a direction.

Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Life Again

What do we really want out of life is it more of the gathering of stuff. Is that stuff actually making a difference in you life? Is the stuff making you a better person, or is it making you a richer person? By richer is it making you more money, which is, suppose to be making you happy! Or is the money making you richer as a person as in the helping of other people. Is the money you are making giving you a richer life so you can buy the things that will make you a better person. That better person should be able to tell the difference. We can always find an angle that will make us think we are doing something for the benefit of mankind. Because that is what it is all about. Is what you are doing benefiting the world, your neighbor, your town, city, or your family. Or is it benefiting you and you alone. The world is about giving. We must become one with the world one with human beings and one with life. Find that thing, that cause you can give to. Let that fulfill your life.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony plain, Alberta, Canada 

Fluoride

Study's show that fluoride is not doing what it was supposes to do.  During the second world war a lot of fluoride was needed to make the atomic bomb there was two ways to make fluoride slow and safe or fast and unsafe the second was voted on to speed up the production of the bomb.  In the 1950's it was found that an area in the US had people with very few cavity's, this area had levels of fluoride show up in the rural drinking water and the people had good teeth but they also had high levels of calcium in their hard water. So the theory was to put fluoride in urban drinking water. There was a study done in England where fluoride was actually painted on the teeth of the study group three times a year for three years, the strange thing is there was no change to the teeth. If there is white spots on the teeth and cracks in the teeth it could be a sign of too much fluoride as a child not a big deal to a dentist just do a few more fillings. Fluoride is more toxic than lead and a little less toxic than arsenic to a growing child's brain reducing the IQ points by six to ten points. Did you know the FDA states one quarter of a milligram in a glass of water is toxic? There is no control or the over ingestion of fluoride it depends on how much water you drink; bottled water has fluoride in it but not all bottled water. Calgary has voted to remove fluoride from its water supply. The graphs and study's show there has been a decline in cavity's since fluoride was started but country's that do not use fluoride have had about the same amount of reduction of cavity's. This has brought me to stop using fluoride in toothpaste and not get the fluoride treatment from our dentist’s, which turns out to be a real good cash cow.  Do not use fluoride water for baby formula.  

Check out these sites,

http://www.fluoridealert.org/50-reasons.htm

www.fluoridealert.org

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Spring

Spring is my favorite time of year everything is renewed! It's seems to me winter is the spring cleaner of our northern part of the world. Winter stops the grass and trees from growing. Stops insects in their tracks from moving. Winter covers the land like a blanket, putting the brakes on the cycle on life, of a lot of the north. When the snow moves off the lawns and pastures, they go from white to shades of browns then sprigs of green grass start to appear and finally to full shade of green. As these colors are changing the birds come back to nest one by one, everyday their new sounds of different birds. Then finally the land is renewed. The spring snows always make me feel good in a way, not nice to drive in! But it is when we get that fresh fallen snow starts to melt in the strong rays of the sun as the earth tilts back to give us that heat; the fresh fallen snow always melts so fast. We hear the sounds of water running threw the eaves trough in the bright sunlight, without the sound of rain. Spring is here.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

I Am

Tom Shadyac was in Banff on the weekend. He was there for his showing of his movie I Am. He is a director of quite a few movies from Hollywood. Gives us some answers to these questions. What's wrong with the world? What can we do about it? After the movie showing Tom held a Q/A very interesting.

Synopsis

I AM, a prismatic and probing exploration of our world, what's wrong with it, and what we can do to make it better, represents Tom Shadyac's first foray into non-fiction following a career as one of Hollywood's leading comedy practitioners, with such successful titles as "Ace Ventura," "Liar Liar," and "Bruce Almighty" to his credit. I AM recounts what happened to the filmmaker after a cycling accident left him incapacitated, possibly for good. Though he ultimately recovered, he emerged a changed man. Disillusioned with life on the A-list, he sold his house, moved to a mobile home community, and decided to start life anew. Armed with nothing but his innate curiosity and a camera crew, Shadyac embarks upon a journey to discover how he as an individual, and we as a race, can improve the way we live. Appearing on-screen as character, commentator, guide, and even, at times, guinea pig, Shadyac meets with a variety of thinkers and doers--remarkable men and women from the worlds of science, philosophy, and faith--including such luminaries as David Suzuki, Noam Chomsky, Howard Zinn, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Lynne McTaggart, Ray Anderson, John Francis, Coleman Barks, and Marc Ian Barasch. An irrepressible Everyman who asks many questions but offers no easy answers, he takes the audience to places it has never been before, and presents even familiar phenomena in completely new and different ways. Copied from a cinema synopsis.

This is a must see documentary.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Work

What do you do, have a job, career or a passion?

Job it is something we go to every day to make money to pay the bills, put food on the table keep us in shelter you know the basic necessities of life. You complain about it and it never seems to satisfy you. Some thing you do to just do the bare minimum to keep going, just to make it to the weekend. Keep buying those toys for instant gratification. The first thing you say in the morning is, another day of work.

Career that is something you do to climb the ladder of success to make a mark in life. May be a few people will get stepped on the way up. This is more of a personal thing, rather than something you do to help someone else. Sometimes family and friends are excluded to gain this self-satisfaction of having a career. You are building a career to make money and get that stamp of letters after your name. If asked what you do for a living the first words out of the mouth are I am. The first thing you say in the morning is how can I make more money and how can I make myself look better in society.

Then there is Passion. If we have passion there is no self centeredness it is all up in the morning and what can we do to improve peoples lives there is no oh I have to go to work. It is more just up and at it. You listen to your inner spirit, and this is generally just acting on impulse to do well. If you have a job or career and you do it with passion you will work tirelessly and ungodly hours and push your body to great lengths and always seem to have enough energy to keep going. Sometimes they do crash when things get to hectic but these are people generally bounce back quickly, because their passion is always running in the background.

We all know a lot of people with jobs. We know quite a few with a career’s. But those who work with pure passion, they are far and few between, they are people who stand out in a crowd not because they want to, just because they do. So instead of finding a job or a career find a passion and pursue that! There will be no better satisfaction in life than giving of you.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

The News

Listening to the news today another earthquake in Japan the people there have lived with earthquakes all their lives but the one in 2011 with the tsunami must been nerve shattering. Every time there is another quake. The one today had a tsunami warning but it was lifted, nothing happened. Living in Alberta Canada, we can't imagine what it would be like. Living in earthquake areas like California, a person must get used to living around earthquakes. The thought is that nothing has happened for years so the probability of something major is small. So what does a person do you can't live in fear so you except things for what they are. People in warm areas of the world can't imagine living here in Alberta with our frigid temperatures in the winter, so it must be somewhat similar, we accept the temperatures they except the earthquakes. Today's thoughts of matter of my mind.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Routine

Having trouble getting back into the routine of pushups and crunches. After not doing them for a month and a half, funny how much muscle a person can loose in that short of time. Have been there before so it will just take a bit of time to get back up to speed. May not make the fifty thousand this year, but will be working on it.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Personal Mastery

A journey towards personal improvement! Personal mastery is commitment to truth and understanding the subconscious mind, and great opportunities to improve growth. Personal mastery is about expressing your gifts, loving yourself and understanding your personality. It is not about controlling and limiting yourself or suppressing things, the more you suppress things the more difficulty you have overcoming them. Personal mastery is about self-discipline, taking responsibility for the direction your life is going. Discipline will clarify and deepen your perspective in life, which in turn will help you develop patience and see life objectively. Personal mastery enables you to be inspired, energized and be happy with your life. Personal mastery will help you understand your talents, strengths and your purpose in life, which will help you become successful in life. We must develop humility, integrity and justice; these are rules on how to conduct ourselves socially, professionally and spiritually. There are no shortcuts toward mastery it can take a lifetime; we must detach ourselves from selfishness and work toward providing care and service to other people, when we do that we start to see more of the surroundings and perceive everything as a whole. Personal mastery will help a person be proactive rather than reactive. Personal mastery guides you to develop being aware with your beliefs, attitudes and what your behavior impacts. It enables you to accept yourself and be responsible for your own actions, attitude, and thought.

What is said here is not something that has not been said before, but is defiantly been on my road for quite a few years, and there is still a quite a ways to go yet.

A person has to remember that the road to personal mastery is a very bumpy one, it is a thought changing process and keeping the goal of achieving personal mastery in front of you is a long. Changing your attitude and changing the way a person has dealt with situations in the past is tuff. Always keep the right now and the future in front of you because that is the only part of time you have control of, the past cannot be changed. Personal mastery cannot be achieved alone; a person needs friends and life coaches along the way. One must always strive to improve so as not to become stagnant.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

What a Day

The start of this year UBBT has not been off to a very good start. January 25 not a good day. January 24, symptoms, which I thought was the start of a bad stomach flue. Morning of January 25 went to hospital diagnosed with appendicitis by 10:00 AM. Doctor who diagnosed me sends out a message to all surrounding hospitals in and around Edmonton to find a surgeon that has time to do an emergency surgery. At this time I was not sure what hospital I would end up at, with the pain relievers through intervenes at that time, I didn’t really care. Ambulanced to St. Albert hospital by 1300 hrs. In the operating room by 1700 hrs, awake by 1900 hrs. Wow what a day. Tried some modified pus-ups and crunches a couple of days ago, not to smart a little to early for that. Am working on forms of a somewhat nature. Should be back up to speed in another month.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Your Being

Does helping others give meaning to your life? Could this mean that you have to depend on others being worse off than yourself so that your life can continue to be meaningful and you can feel good about yourself? Does making it only mean something, as long as there are millions of other people who do not? Do you need other people to fail in order for your life to have meaning? Is the purpose for helping others surface or exterior, to make a good impression on other people, this is not lasting time will fade the purpose! If the purpose comes from the inner being then it is genuine, if it’s not the ego will take over then the original intent will slip away. The saying the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Meaning it’s not your aims or your actions but it is where and how the thoughts come from, your surface being or your inner being.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Freedom

A tight ropewalker strung a cable between two buildings in New York. His words, I feel I belong to the sky when out on the tightrope I have the feeling of absolute freedom. I breathe slowly and enjoy the miracle of balance. I realized that earlier I had the feeling of fear but no longer, the fear of letting go and then I laughed at it. I am at complete peace on the wire! Out there on the middle of wire I drop to one knee and give the salute of the tightrope walker. There at my feet below is all of New York. Why does he do it? It’s the feeling of complete freedom. Is he crazy some think so?

Do you have guilt and shame of others expectations? Do you judge one another? Do you put stumbling blocks in front of one another to further yourself? Are you free or are you locked in chains or in the harness of life?

Once you have the feeling of freedom you will never go back. No longer do you have to fear what people say or do, it no longer bothers you! Live and breathe life! Live your life with love and compassion.

Like the tightrope walker his feeling of freedom trumped the short time he spent in jail. No one could take away his short time of feeling, complete freedom.

Freedom in liberty, freedom in the country is one thing but don’t flaunt it. What is most important is freedom of the spirit! Which is the only true freedom one can have.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Judgment

What is the value in unity we are suppose to work together pull together but we are all different. We come from different backgrounds different parents. I was not raised the way you were raised. You neighbor perhaps their biological parents did not raise them. We have different opinions and different views on things. You may think one way about something and someone else thinks just as strong another way about something. Not that your viewpoint is wrong or the other persons viewpoint is wrong it is just a difference of opinions. Each person is trying to justify his or her opinions. We have different economic lifestyles different values. We differ in our food our entertainment, convictions even being pregidous and we all are just at different levels. Why can’t we all get along? The goal should be that we shall learn to live together in unity we can disagree but why do we have to become disagreeable. The strong person has to give the weak time to grow up and the weak person should not hold the strong person to their convictions. Strong lighten up weak grow up! Mistakes are made we all make them learn from them and move on. Don’t gossip about someone’s mistake you are just contributing to the mistake. The person who made the mistake probably feels bad enough. The gossip is only for the weak it makes them feel strong. The strong put down the weak, so they can gain more power.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Conversation

What are your personal advantages when you look inside your self? Are you what you see yourself as, or are you bent on seeing yourself as what you think others see you as. If you worry what others see you as and not be yourself the only person you are pulling the wool over eyes is your own. People have to stand up for what they believe in and stand up for your self. But that does not mean jumping up and down and raising your voice hooting and hollering to get what you want that only turns a submissive person into you getting your own way, that has only given you the winning side to make your self feel good, but you did not earn it through respect, it was only earned through the other person being annoyed with you and can not stand to have a decent discussion with you. Conversations are words spoke back and forth with each side giving their perspective of what is being talked about, if people are to figure out a problem. A discussion is compared to a sparring match the more the emotions get involved the more erratic, misconstrued and out of touch with the reason for the sparring or the conversation becomes. Sparring develops into a brawl. Conversation develops into hollering. Weather a person is sparring or in conversation you should not let emotions get involved, unless of course it is an attack on you personally then it is time to walk away, or better yet learn how to get control of the situation even if it means swallowing crow.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada