The Child

What is family what is a home for. Why do children need a family and a home. The home is for living together, learning and lasting. When and if the home begins to decay next the community, and then nations the country begins to decay. How do we teach our children to respect and honor, the mother and father. If you honor your children they will honor you. This will happen through the osmosis of learning from the parents. There is no perfect parent as there are no perfect children, although there may be a few that think they are. We all as parents wish we would have done things different, but really as a parent we are learning as we grow. We can't have goals for our children, we can have goals for ourselves. Reason being we can control ourselves, we can't control our children. We desire our children to be honorable, how do we control that, by being honorable ourselves, it is learned. How do we survive parenthood, we are not perfect so how are our children going to be perfect. The only control we have is to try to teach our children the best we can, guess the rest is hope for the best. Your children already know you are not perfect, they just want to know if you are real. If your children see you fail and mess up and you pick yourself up and carry on and learn from your mistakes. Your children will learn far more from that than from having phony perfectionism. How does a parent teach our children there are some things that are important to the growing up of a child. Few things come to mind, not giving a child what they want but giving them what they need that is truly love for the child. Hugging, hey what about the bumper sticker kids need hugs not drugs. Hugs gives a child love, so when they grow up that they will realize, intimacy is not necessarily love. Hey children must see parents hugging one another. How else will they understand love. If Mom
and Dad don't hug and you hug your children what message is that sending. Grandparents need to hug so the Grand children can see that they love one another. Fathers hug your daughters, is it possible that a daughter could become promiscuous because a father did not hug his daughter. Fathers bless your children, you are the father give you're child a blessing it gives them strength saying I love you. Listen to your children, so often a parent does not wait till there child has finished there sentence and the parent is already giving advice. Most times they don't need advice just need a ear, most of the time they will figure it out themselves, if they figure it out for themselves they will remember it forever. Most of the time listening is the best form of communication. Children need encouragement not praise. Praise says your great because you did something. Encouragement says something was done and it is really appreciated. Big difference. Your child needs limits, and they will be tested. If the limits are not set and abided they know what you down deep stand for. You need rules and limits in your home. Train your child. Why do some people tie their dog up at night and let their child run wild.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.