Dealing with Negative Naysayers

What do you do when you are finally starting master the art of positivity, but still can’t get away from the wrath of conflict bullies and emotional bloodsuckers? Should we get rid of them? I mean not hang out with them? No, really we should be learning to live in harmony. You know the person, no matter how much advice they reach out for they never take it. The person who can’t wait to see you so they can make conversation that begins and ends in their self-created drama. Here is a term for you (Self Created Chaos or SCC for short). We can’t walk around with earplugs!
Hey it is impossible to live in a world of no negative and all positive. We can’t avoid conflict, drama and stressful relationships. Do we put on that emotional armor, so we can get to a better place and reach our goals? No that isn’t going to happen and shouldn’t, the best part of life is how imperfectly perfect it is. Try taking a new approach when conflict arises with that friend, neighbor, sibling or spouse;) Imagine they don’t have, what you have to deal with conflict, they do not think like you and they see the world totally different than you do. I know it’s hard to imagine!
You are the only person who sees things through your eyes. Before you pull that “I want to win card”. Step back from your usual way of thinking and you may see things differently. Your life has had many twists and turns. So has theirs. Maybe that argument or fight with your coworker isn’t about what has happened on the job. Maybe they are having financial problems, or blowing off steam in your direction due to your success at work? Seek to understand about yourself through the problems you have with others. Then you will be less reactive and more proactive when conflict arises.
What about those people you expect trouble from. Those labeled troublemakers who have no shot at getting a different title. If you concentrate on the good they bring to life (if any) or start expecting good things from them, instead of bad things, there may be a new understanding of how they tick.
My past posts have been harping on being positive and staying away from people who are negative. But if they are a friend or some one you care about or someone you think needs help. Maybe that negative naysayer just needs an emotional boost or a shot of positive vibes from you. It could be that’s all they need to gain a better perspective on life and lessen their confrontational ways. Don’t write off those negative naysayers, give yourself a chance to learn from them and gain perspective on how the world views you. Use these experiences to further your life.
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out” -Anon
“ When things go right people stand behind you, when things go wrong you stand alone” -Max
Sifu Hayes
www.silentriverkungfu.com Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada