Take Responsibility

You are responsible for the rest of your life. Take responsibility for your actions it may be painful and it may be difficult. Your attitude is what sets the motion. Your face and responses reveal your own chosen attitude. When you are engaged in life. The bad of life is just waiting, for to you take the easy path of life. We all know what awaits us down that road. You have to take charge of your life. One of the secrets of a good marriage is don't go to bed angry. Going to bed angry gives the anger a chance to get cemented in you, that will turn to resentment then bitterness and possibly rage. That in turn can change to worst of all possibly murder maybe not physical but mental. Mental domination and possibly forcible control. It can be cutting down other people to gain your self esteem and ego.
We so often talk about control all sorts of control. We talk about control when we spar. We talk about control when we speak. Same as what is talked about in the first paragraph. Control of the physical, control of the mental.  We are so often in life told to express yourself, but not at the expense of others.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

The Child

What is family what is a home for. Why do children need a family and a home. The home is for living together, learning and lasting. When and if the home begins to decay next the community, and then nations the country begins to decay. How do we teach our children to respect and honor, the mother and father. If you honor your children they will honor you. This will happen through the osmosis of learning from the parents. There is no perfect parent as there are no perfect children, although there may be a few that think they are. We all as parents wish we would have done things different, but really as a parent we are learning as we grow. We can't have goals for our children, we can have goals for ourselves. Reason being we can control ourselves, we can't control our children. We desire our children to be honorable, how do we control that, by being honorable ourselves, it is learned. How do we survive parenthood, we are not perfect so how are our children going to be perfect. The only control we have is to try to teach our children the best we can, guess the rest is hope for the best. Your children already know you are not perfect, they just want to know if you are real. If your children see you fail and mess up and you pick yourself up and carry on and learn from your mistakes. Your children will learn far more from that than from having phony perfectionism. How does a parent teach our children there are some things that are important to the growing up of a child. Few things come to mind, not giving a child what they want but giving them what they need that is truly love for the child. Hugging, hey what about the bumper sticker kids need hugs not drugs. Hugs gives a child love, so when they grow up that they will realize, intimacy is not necessarily love. Hey children must see parents hugging one another. How else will they understand love. If Mom
and Dad don't hug and you hug your children what message is that sending. Grandparents need to hug so the Grand children can see that they love one another. Fathers hug your daughters, is it possible that a daughter could become promiscuous because a father did not hug his daughter. Fathers bless your children, you are the father give you're child a blessing it gives them strength saying I love you. Listen to your children, so often a parent does not wait till there child has finished there sentence and the parent is already giving advice. Most times they don't need advice just need a ear, most of the time they will figure it out themselves, if they figure it out for themselves they will remember it forever. Most of the time listening is the best form of communication. Children need encouragement not praise. Praise says your great because you did something. Encouragement says something was done and it is really appreciated. Big difference. Your child needs limits, and they will be tested. If the limits are not set and abided they know what you down deep stand for. You need rules and limits in your home. Train your child. Why do some people tie their dog up at night and let their child run wild.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Dealing with ourselves

Do we always tell the truth, or do you hear that little lie or tell one, you don't think it will hurt anyone! When we lie we are actually hurting ourselves. When you are angry do you nurse your grudge, use bad language, and snap out at people maybe the people you are not angry at, or do you keep it inside and let it eat at you. It is said not to go to bed full of anger for it will rob you of sleep and that can turn to sickness. You are only hurting yourself. We must be kind to each other, have a tender heart and forgive one another.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Failure

Do you question yourself why you start something and not continue to the finish. What was the reason you started, now question yourself. A long project needs to be broke into small increments. Next can the small increments be seen. If no small accomplishments have not been realized, then the finally just keeps getting farther away. Failure is part of character building. If there is never any failure there is no long term learning. If one goes through life without failure, one will never learn right from wrong, good from bad, compassion, love, the list is endless. Failure is one of the best teaching tools. Failure should be embraced, the worst thing that one can do is fail and quit.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada