Safe People

Who are safe people. A judgement of safe people, when talking to a person and that person is talking badly about someone else that person is probably talking badly about you, not a safe person. How do you find that person, friend, that you can tell all to and trust with your secrets. Yes we all have something that we don't want to dig up for the whole world to know. Do you want to be friends with someone who is popular or of high importance so you can be important. When you wall other people out, you are also walling yourself in, these walls were built when you needed them, to protect yourself. If you are in a group and the conversation drifts to a conversation of being judgemental, gossiping way. Gently steer the conversation to something more positive.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Discomfort

One of the reasons people do not mature is they don’t want any pain, discomfort or any suffering in their life. Pain and discomfort is the only way you can grow. Is to learn how to embrace pain. The reason people don’t take a stand in life for what they believe in, is they don’t want to be persecuted, rejected, don’t want to be made fun of, or laughed at, or people talking behind their back. If you are afraid to be rejected for something you believe in, if you stand tall for your beliefs, maybe some day those people that rejected you will have to pay you honor.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Leading Life

As martial artists we have to get up every day and lead a life, and consistently walk in peace, love, and show other people of the world that the martial arts is more than about kicking and punching. We need to take inventory of what we do on the street on the road in the store, to display our lives in the way we want our world to de directed. If we only do this once or twice a week, and the rest of the time we are leading a life of no respect and discipline we are not walking what we talk. How are people going to follow your example if we are not consistent. We have to learn not to be lead by our emotions.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Holidays

Some differences in what men and women do on a holiday, women seem to enjoy the shopping end of holidays. Women want to see the inside of stores and see how other parts of the world look from the inside of a store, see how people dress in a different country, see if they can get deals on clothing and nicknacks. Stroll down the streets taking in the sites.
As for the male half of the population they are quite content to beat them selves up on golf courses, scuba diving, the ocean in general, venturing out to see how another country lives, looking at things like solar panels on the roof, what kind of shingles they have, what kind of vehicles they drive. Look at the lay of the land, mountains, vineyards, row cropping and such.
Of course this is not the way all females and male holiday, just my perspective of my last holiday. This is not a negative view just a view.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada

Our Minds III

Commitment means you take action on purpose. Now there are a lot of things to be upset about, there are things out there that are just waiting to get you upset.
Things are not going to change for you. You have to make up your mind and decide that you want change and you are the one who has to change. You need to change your schedule so you are not overloaded. You have to wake up and say to yourself that you want to be treated well, so say to yourself I'm going to treat people the way I want to be treated. Walk in love, be generous, give big tips. Here is one for you "their not nice to me why should I be nice to them." Look, rise above it just be nice.  Set your mind and keep it set. Get your mind set to get your finances in order, set your mind to clean your house, set your mind to get your life in order with the person you are living with. Set your mind not to waste another day in self pity. Set your mind that your done with living in the past.
Some of my writings may repeat themselves, but this my way of trying to help straighten out this world.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Our Minds II

Our minds tend to think bad things about people, suspicious things. The minute that, that creeps into your mind, you have to say to yourself love believes the best of every person, I'm going to believe the best. When you are feeling the feeling of depression or wanting to give up, ask yourself what you have been thinking, that will be the source of your depression or wanting to give up. There are three parts to this, where you were, where are, and where you want to be. You know where you were, you know where you should be. Stop acting like the old creature that you used to be, and start acting the way you should. You start everyday, renewing your mind, having a brand new attitude, and no one can control your thoughts but you. We think that what we think is our business, it is. but what you end up thinking is what you will end up doing and saying. You can't have bad thoughts about people, hate people, watch garbage on TV on the Internet and it not have it effect you. You will become the garbage of your garbage thoughts. We can feel insecure but present ourselves secure. You can feel like you are not confident but present yourself with confidence. You can feel guilty and be righteous. You are not what you feel you are what you believe, and your feelings will catch up to what you believe.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada.

Our Minds

Our mind what a instrument if it may be called that.It can go to the past remember things that are good, and things that are bad that a person would like to forget. It can go into the future and imagine things, but where the mind goes the man will follow. That is such a profound statement. Where your mind goes you will eventually get there. So what we think is so important. Some people think they can't control their mind, you can! You can choose your thoughts, but you must choose them carefully. If you choose your thoughts to be negative and always dwell on the negative, and get a charge out of the negative of other people there will be no hope for you to have a good fulfilling life. When you chose to think and keep your mind on the positive, and look at the positive side of things, doing that is not easy, if you are trying to change yourself, you will eventually get to the positive happy side of life. If you don't get your mind straightened out you will never get your life straightened out. It's going to take work it's going to take effort. If your are going to work into something it might as well be something your life is going to gain from. Change is not going to happen quickly but as long as you are progressing, you will see changes in you and in your life.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com
Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada