Age and attitude

How many people do you know that are forty-five and people who are sixty-five are in better shape and are sharper and full of life. Nobody cares how old you are except you and if you don’t mind it don’t matter. Quit talking about your age and start demonstrating your enthusiasm. Attitude seems to demoralize as people begin to age what ever age that is. The first attitude is uselessness I’m over the hill, I get in everybody’s way, why am I still around. Uselessness is a bad attitude; you will die before you die. A quote, a useless life is an early death. Second attitude is self-pity; nobody cares about me anymore why should I bother to stay alive or in touch, whoa is me. This leads to blame, blame leads to bitterness, bitterness leads to family saying how long is grandma staying this time, why did we say we would bring them with us on a vacation. They don’t mind you, they may just hate your attitude. Third is fear, this is a very common among those getting older. This attitude says I need to be very careful I need to avoid all dangers and all risks. This can lead to a suspicious spirit and a suspicious spirit leads to paranoia. Fear is a thief it steals us of joy and robs us of peace. Fear is the most devastating of all emotions. The fourth is the attitude of guilt and regret. This is an attitude of always looking back if only I hadn’t or if I would have. Guilt feeds disappointment and discouragement. To grand parents and those who will be grandparents, there is so much that is useful and helpful and necessary in this world. Our families definitely need us. The youth are told to honor the elderly, lets give them a reason to do so, don’t expect it without earning it if they don’t there may be a reason for it and it may not be their fault. Maybe it is time for an attitude adjustment. In the middle years you are determined and in the later years you should be confident who wouldn’t want a granddad like that. Even as we age we need a can do spirit.

Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com

UBBT Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada