Anxious, is from a Latin word, meaning to choke or to strangle. Worry, is from a German word, meaning to choke or to strangle. To choke or to strangle we think of in the physical. But the meaning is the same, as the mental struggle brought on by worry, the choking of life, strangling of joy.
Quote--- Anxiety is the painful uneasiness of the mind, as it works over impending fears. It is struggling in the mental, emotional and spiritual realm while being strangled by worries and anxiety. In the slightest form we simply get uneasy. In the severe form we panic, or called a panic attack.
Today’s world often talks about being a multi tasker. But it is a proven fact your mind still only works on one thing at a time, it does have the ability to switch very quickly from one task to another but it still only comprehends one thing at a time. If all your problems are only half dealt with, your mind is still cycling back and forth between all of these tasks and that is when worry and anxiety begins. Each time you never finish a task it goes into the pot of I should have’s, you know that pot of unfinished projects, unfinished jobs or practices you should have done, pushups you should have completed, only to arise later to stir up your emotions.
This is why dealing with your fears, and realizing what causes you to lose all emotional control and lash out in anger, is so important!
Worry takes away our energy and joy making us judgmental then we become negative people, we expect wrong, find it, and then focus on it. Our society worries about the future, discontent with the present, can’t control the past. We spread ourselves so thin we are exposed to fear and doubt, we become weary and impatient, then tempers wear thin and robs us of peace of mind.
Sifu Hayes
Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
Friday, April 30, 2010
Friday, April 23, 2010
10 Life Laws
Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.
Life Law #2: You create your own experience. This means taking responsibility for your life. If you’re in a bad relationship, if you’re in a job you hate, if you’re overweight, then you have no one to blame but yourself. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Instead, start choosing the right behaviors and thoughts. Eventually, it will lead to the positive outcomes you want.
Life Law #3: People do what works. Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t do them, right? So, if you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you have to recognize what you are gaining from it. Then figure out other, more constructive ways you can gain what you need.
Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. You've got to face it to replace it. Acknowledgment means, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.
Life Law #5: Life rewards action. Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words. Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.
Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception. You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.
Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.
Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.
Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you.
Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it. Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!
Dr. Phil’s ten life laws. Very true.
Sifu Hayes Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta Canada
Life Law #2: You create your own experience. This means taking responsibility for your life. If you’re in a bad relationship, if you’re in a job you hate, if you’re overweight, then you have no one to blame but yourself. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Instead, start choosing the right behaviors and thoughts. Eventually, it will lead to the positive outcomes you want.
Life Law #3: People do what works. Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t do them, right? So, if you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you have to recognize what you are gaining from it. Then figure out other, more constructive ways you can gain what you need.
Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. You've got to face it to replace it. Acknowledgment means, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.
Life Law #5: Life rewards action. Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words. Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.
Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception. You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.
Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.
Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.
Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you.
Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it. Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!
Dr. Phil’s ten life laws. Very true.
Sifu Hayes Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta Canada
Friday, April 16, 2010
Life Questions
If you had, half as much as what you have, would you be happy?
What influences you?
If you become the people around you do you really know who you are?
Do you know what is right and wrong?
Do you follow people even though you know they are doing wrong?
Can you lead without ego?
If you have great expectations for your self do you follow through?
Do you believe in a higher power?
Do you think every living thing on this beautiful earth is by chance?
Do you wake up every morning and be thankful for what you have?
Do you go to bed and be thankful for your day?
Do you express yourself by saying please and thank you?
Do you make eye contact with people when listening to them?
Do you listen to people when they speak?
May you be at Peace?
Sifu Hayes
Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
What influences you?
If you become the people around you do you really know who you are?
Do you know what is right and wrong?
Do you follow people even though you know they are doing wrong?
Can you lead without ego?
If you have great expectations for your self do you follow through?
Do you believe in a higher power?
Do you think every living thing on this beautiful earth is by chance?
Do you wake up every morning and be thankful for what you have?
Do you go to bed and be thankful for your day?
Do you express yourself by saying please and thank you?
Do you make eye contact with people when listening to them?
Do you listen to people when they speak?
May you be at Peace?
Sifu Hayes
Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
Friday, April 9, 2010
Gratitude
Are you grateful for everything you have?
Whether you have a million dollars in the bank or a hundred -- if you have a roof over your head, food on your table and the comfort of friends and family, you're rich.
Giving back benefits you in a number of ways.
When you give back, you feel better about yourself, your accomplishments and your wealth -- you feel grateful.
When you give back, you learn about yourself and about others -- this is a valuable opportunity.
When you give back, you make valuable connections with people who have the power to change your life in any number of amazing ways.
When you give back, you gain both spiritually and monetarily. It's the Law of Attraction -- which states you attract what you focus on. The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself, is drawn.
When you possess gratitude, compassion, and generosity of mind, money and spirit, you attract those things back to you -- all which make you richer, smarter, and surrounded by life, love and happiness.
No matter what level you're at or what goals you are striving for, have the mind-blowing opportunity to improve the lives of others, including your own, in a number of ways.
1. You have the power to change the world, to better the world.
2. By embracing and acting on your power, you will gain abundance both materially and spiritually.
"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give." -Winston Churchill
If history and experience have taught us anything it's that the more you give, the more you receive. When you take the time to give back to the world with the intention of improving the lives of others, the essential result is that you end up receiving so much more than you can possibly imagine.
Sifu Hayes
Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
Are you grateful for everything you have?
Whether you have a million dollars in the bank or a hundred -- if you have a roof over your head, food on your table and the comfort of friends and family, you're rich.
Giving back benefits you in a number of ways.
When you give back, you feel better about yourself, your accomplishments and your wealth -- you feel grateful.
When you give back, you learn about yourself and about others -- this is a valuable opportunity.
When you give back, you make valuable connections with people who have the power to change your life in any number of amazing ways.
When you give back, you gain both spiritually and monetarily. It's the Law of Attraction -- which states you attract what you focus on. The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself, is drawn.
When you possess gratitude, compassion, and generosity of mind, money and spirit, you attract those things back to you -- all which make you richer, smarter, and surrounded by life, love and happiness.
No matter what level you're at or what goals you are striving for, have the mind-blowing opportunity to improve the lives of others, including your own, in a number of ways.
1. You have the power to change the world, to better the world.
2. By embracing and acting on your power, you will gain abundance both materially and spiritually.
"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give." -Winston Churchill
If history and experience have taught us anything it's that the more you give, the more you receive. When you take the time to give back to the world with the intention of improving the lives of others, the essential result is that you end up receiving so much more than you can possibly imagine.
Sifu Hayes
Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
Friday, April 2, 2010
Toxic people
I came across this article and wanted to write something like this in my own words, But Maria Mar writes so well I did not what to compromise her article.
What is a Toxic Person?
By toxic, I do not mean that they are finding it difficult to deal with your change. That's normal. I don't mean that they "make you" feel this or that way. No one "makes" you feel. That is giving your power away. If this is the case, assume the responsibility for your feelings, attitudes and responses.
What, I mean by toxic is that they are not willing to respect your limits. Toxic to you are friends who repeatedly dishonor or betray you. Toxic are friends who play mind games. Toxic are people who are unwilling or unable to see how their acts affect others, how they are affecting you. Toxic people are blamers. They always have an excuse and a finger pointing somewhere else. There is no way that you can come to terms with people like that. You will be trying forever. Toxic are those who take, but do not receive. Toxic are those who take, but do not give.
Toxic people take you for granted. Their actions (and sometimes even their words) consistently reveal that they not value you. They put you down with words or actions. They make you invisible. They refuse to name the beauty and love you bring into their lives.
Toxic friends trample on your faith and speak only cynical words that take away all the magic and goodness in life.
Toxic friends may be charmers, but they cannot commit to love, to you or to their own words. These toxic friends do not know what they want. They keep asking for your help, only to drop the entire project the minute you committed your contacts or time to their support. You end up exhausted and your reputation is damaged with these toxic friends.
Toxic are people who begin a full-fledge war against your happiness, who do everything they can to bring you back to a place of suffering, so that you stay with them in their misery.
Toxic People in Business
Toxic clients are those who keep asking for more and take everything, but do not RECEIVE it. Because they are not allowing the love in what you give to touch them, they do not FEEL the value of it. As a result, they always want more and nothing is enough. They do not value the gifts because in their emotional world, they have not let the gift in.
They do not trust or value your expertise. Because they do not value themselves, they distrust the value of anyone associated with them. Once they hire you, they do not value you. They will ask for others' opinions and act on those opinions, even if these other people are not experts. They will not follow your counsel and when their actions lead them to failure, they will fail to see that it was not your counsel, but their stupidity that lead them to that end.
Toxic clients haggle about the price of your service. They pay late and come up with excuses. They do not do their work and then complain that your service is not working. They give you the materials late and procrastinate, so that you cannot fulfill your contract with them. Then they come back after the contract date is over and want you to be their time slave and keep on working for them.
Practicing Tough Compassion
Leaving toxic people is not about judging them. It is not about blaming them or feeling superior to them. It is about vibrational frequencies, readiness and the capacity to change. You have evolved into a being with higher vibrational frequencies because you have left a lot of dead weight behind and you have unravel the emotional knots that kept your radiance tied up. You have embraced change and you have learned to surrender to Divine Will. But not everyone is ready to do that just yet. Recognizing when someone needs to stay behind is part of compassion.
Compassion teaches us to be tolerant, not to judge others. To forgive others, weaknesses and mistakes because no one is perfect. But when compassion for another makes it impossible to have compassion for yourself, then it is time to practice Tough Compassion. It is time to let go.
No one deserves that you betray your soul, your happiness and your potential. No one deserves that you go back to your old world, becoming a ghost just for them. That option is not love. It is not love for them. And it is certainly not love for you. Written by Maria Mar
A toxic person who reads this will not look at him or herself and try to change. But will continue on their merry way pointing fingers at people they feel are toxic. Are you using people to make yourself feel powerful to get what you want? Remember----Compassion!
Sifu Hayes, Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
What is a Toxic Person?
By toxic, I do not mean that they are finding it difficult to deal with your change. That's normal. I don't mean that they "make you" feel this or that way. No one "makes" you feel. That is giving your power away. If this is the case, assume the responsibility for your feelings, attitudes and responses.
What, I mean by toxic is that they are not willing to respect your limits. Toxic to you are friends who repeatedly dishonor or betray you. Toxic are friends who play mind games. Toxic are people who are unwilling or unable to see how their acts affect others, how they are affecting you. Toxic people are blamers. They always have an excuse and a finger pointing somewhere else. There is no way that you can come to terms with people like that. You will be trying forever. Toxic are those who take, but do not receive. Toxic are those who take, but do not give.
Toxic people take you for granted. Their actions (and sometimes even their words) consistently reveal that they not value you. They put you down with words or actions. They make you invisible. They refuse to name the beauty and love you bring into their lives.
Toxic friends trample on your faith and speak only cynical words that take away all the magic and goodness in life.
Toxic friends may be charmers, but they cannot commit to love, to you or to their own words. These toxic friends do not know what they want. They keep asking for your help, only to drop the entire project the minute you committed your contacts or time to their support. You end up exhausted and your reputation is damaged with these toxic friends.
Toxic are people who begin a full-fledge war against your happiness, who do everything they can to bring you back to a place of suffering, so that you stay with them in their misery.
Toxic People in Business
Toxic clients are those who keep asking for more and take everything, but do not RECEIVE it. Because they are not allowing the love in what you give to touch them, they do not FEEL the value of it. As a result, they always want more and nothing is enough. They do not value the gifts because in their emotional world, they have not let the gift in.
They do not trust or value your expertise. Because they do not value themselves, they distrust the value of anyone associated with them. Once they hire you, they do not value you. They will ask for others' opinions and act on those opinions, even if these other people are not experts. They will not follow your counsel and when their actions lead them to failure, they will fail to see that it was not your counsel, but their stupidity that lead them to that end.
Toxic clients haggle about the price of your service. They pay late and come up with excuses. They do not do their work and then complain that your service is not working. They give you the materials late and procrastinate, so that you cannot fulfill your contract with them. Then they come back after the contract date is over and want you to be their time slave and keep on working for them.
Practicing Tough Compassion
Leaving toxic people is not about judging them. It is not about blaming them or feeling superior to them. It is about vibrational frequencies, readiness and the capacity to change. You have evolved into a being with higher vibrational frequencies because you have left a lot of dead weight behind and you have unravel the emotional knots that kept your radiance tied up. You have embraced change and you have learned to surrender to Divine Will. But not everyone is ready to do that just yet. Recognizing when someone needs to stay behind is part of compassion.
Compassion teaches us to be tolerant, not to judge others. To forgive others, weaknesses and mistakes because no one is perfect. But when compassion for another makes it impossible to have compassion for yourself, then it is time to practice Tough Compassion. It is time to let go.
No one deserves that you betray your soul, your happiness and your potential. No one deserves that you go back to your old world, becoming a ghost just for them. That option is not love. It is not love for them. And it is certainly not love for you. Written by Maria Mar
A toxic person who reads this will not look at him or herself and try to change. But will continue on their merry way pointing fingers at people they feel are toxic. Are you using people to make yourself feel powerful to get what you want? Remember----Compassion!
Sifu Hayes, Silent River Kung Fu, Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada
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