How many times a day or week, do you step out of your comfort zone? When you are young, if you step out of that zone more often that not, by the time you are older your comfort zone will become very large. Thus making your non-comfortable zone smaller. The more you step out of your comfort zone when you are young, your confidence becomes better, and you become more assertive. But you do have to control yourself not to become so aggressive that you dominate every one you meet. Otherwise you are not teaching the martial arts. Being out spoken is fine, as long as you take the time to pay attention and actually listen to what another person is saying. A person can dominate a conversation, and are so into him or herself, concentrating on what they are going to say next. That when you are speaking! Their eyes wonder, look at themselves in a mirror maybe fix their hair, look around the room, waiting for you to hurry up and finish talking, so they can make their statement that must be way more important than what you are saying. What is trying to be said here is at least give the person that is talking to you the time of day and courtesy to what they are saying by looking at them, at least pretend you are interested. Wow quite a rant.
Sifu Hayes www.silentriverkungfu.com Stony Plain Alberta Canada
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For some people, it's not that they are not listening or that they are just waiting to be able to say what's on their mind...
ReplyDeleteFor some individuals, a conversation can feel too intimate making them feel vulnerable so they look away or distract themselves. They are still listening and it is not a personal affront on the what you are saying, it's a "tick" in their personality, like being shy or biting finger nails. People with Asperger Syndrome and other such diseases have difficulty with this, and there are degrees of the disease so it may not be apparent to you that this the problem. Certain medication also have this as a side effect to taking them.. prednisone being one of them.
Just thought you should know.
Darnell McKinley
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